Sometimes it's the little things that mean most to your spouse. One Reddit user asked married couples what small things keep their marriage alive. Here's what they said:
"We both agreed that whenever we start to have an argument to do a 'gut check,' i.e. check if either one of us is hungry. If so, end the argument immediately, eat something and wait half an hour to see if we want to resume arguing. We now argue about twice a year."
"When you open your eyes in the morning, do not take your phone but your spouse and say good morning first."
"My wife and I each think we married 'up.' That's a short way of describing how we look at each other. We've been together 20 years, married 18. I still think I got the better half of the deal, and she thinks SHE got the better half of the deal."
"Neither of us ever set out to 'win' an argument. It's always us VS the issue."
"My husband and I have Nerf wars to ease the tension after an argument. By the end we're both laughing and exhausted from trying to dodge bullets that we don't have the ability to be mad anymore."
"Just because you're married doesn't mean you're not dating anymore."
"Picking your battles! Who cares if the toilet paper roll is under or over … or if the dishwasher is loaded right. Just let it go and appreciate them doing it even if it's not the 'right' way."
"Leg rubs after a long day … Date nights. Telling her I love her and kissing her each day. Complimenting her after a workout or when she does something to her hair ... Apologizing for hurting her feelings even if it was unintentional. I love my wife. I enjoy threads like this for reminding me how lucky I am to have someone like her."
"He has an alarm that goes off at 9:15 every night ... He stops whatever he is doing, sings a little song and then asks me if he can do anything for me. Most of the time I just want a hug and a kiss."
"We walk our dog together every day. It sounds dumb, but just talking for 20 minutes about nothing is nice."
"My husband and I say thank you not just for the big stuff but also the little things, like running a chore or making dinner and we are both incredibly grateful to be loved by the other. We're each other's biggest fans and supporters."
"Little gifts just to let them know you were thinking about them during a trivial moment like grocery shopping. Even if it's just a small chocolate. It makes a huge difference."
"When I find myself feeling frustrated with her for silly things at home, I've started to recognize it's just that I'm in a bad mood and I get out of it by telling her how beautiful she is (don't just say she's beautiful, guys. That's lazy. Say, 'wow, I just noticed how beautiful your freckles look today.') and give her a big hug and tell her what she's done recently that I appreciate."
"Don't be afraid to admit fault and don't make excuses. If you hurt them, even if you didn't mean to, apologize."
"We constantly tell each other how rad we think the other is. I praise his work ethic and wit and he tells me I'm one of the smartest people he knows."
"Mutual respect. Love gets you married, respect KEEPS you married."
Even the smallest actions can have a big impact. Do something small for your spouse every day, and you might see an amazing change in your marriage.
*Editor's Note: Comments from Reddit have been slightly edited for grammar and punctuation to enhance readability.